Every time someone made me feel a certain way or hurt me, I always thought it was my fault. I believed I was thinking negatively, and that’s why I felt the way I did. I never considered that it might not be my mistake. Once, my therapist told me, “It’s not your fault. They made you feel this way. You felt it. They might not have meant to, but they did. It’s not your mistake.” It took me years to finally understand this. Actually, it's still hard for me to accept it. I often overthink these situations. But if the person is close to you, the best thing you can do is tell them how they made you feel. In most cases, the other person might be completely unaware of how you felt. In some cases, you may even discover whether the person was intentionally trying to hurt you.
